Michelle Stani, a N.J. mother of four, passed away on Jan. 12 just three weeks after giving birth to her newborn son, Jayden, on Christmas Eve. Stani never got to hold her son before she died. Her family is mourning her death and trying to understand what happened.
According to reports, Stani was being treated at the Robert Wood Johnson University Hospital in New Brunswick, N.J. and was dealing with pneumonia and other Covid complications. Family said that the 37-year-old was heartbroken that she couldn’t hold her baby.
“Her partner had taken a picture of the baby and showed it to her, but that’s all she got,” Aunt Tina Stani said. “It tore her up. She literally texted me that she was heartbroken, that she wished she could hold her baby. That’s all she wanted.”
It is unclear if the mother of four was vaccinated. She had been pregnant for the last two years with her youngest children – 11-month-old Jordan and newborn Jayden were Irish twins.
The Bridgewater mother is survived by two other children, 19-year-old Samantha and 4-year-old Noah. She is also mourned by her partner, Frank Allen, parents, John and Susan Stani, and two brothers, Sean and Jack.
Family said that Michelle Stani got sick in December and that Covid hit her fast and hard. They described the mother of four as a “beautiful soul.” According to her obituary, “she was a loving mother and devoted her life to raising her children. She enjoyed having deep conversations but could also be lighthearted and loved to make people laugh. Michelle was a strong, independent woman with a soft heart and a beautiful soul. She was the kind of person that if you met once, you would never forget her.”
Michelle Stani’s funeral was on Jan. 19 in Somerset, N.J. The mother of four was buried at the Cedar Grove Cemetery. Stani’s oldest daughter and her brother, Sean, spoke during the service. According to Tina Stani, Michelle and her daughter were very close, and she doesn’t think the death of the N.J. mom has yet been processed by the 19-year-old.
The 19-year-old took to Facebook to mourn her mother’s death. “My heart is so broken, and life will never be the same without you, but I will always carry you in my heart. I learned so much from you and I am so proud of all your accomplishments. There is truly no one like you, you are the best,” said Samantha.
According to her family, Michelle Stani was a big advocate of education. She started working at a daycare center when Samantha was young and had recently gotten her master’s degree in education from Rutgers University.
Before she graduated from Raritan Valley Community College in 2009, she spoke to MyCentralJersey.com and talked about how she developed her love for education.
Michelle said, “I started working at a day care (center) so I could make money and bring (Samantha) for free at the same time. When I really think about it, it’s almost like a dream, I felt like I dreamt this was going to happen, but I could never picture how it would feel. It’s very emotional for me, and it feels really good.”
The mother of four added that her daycare boss encouraged her to look at a career in education because she was so good with children. Through her hard work, Michelle Stani was able to become a director at a local New Jersey daycare.
Because of her passion for children’s education, a GoFundMe page has been set up by Michelle Stani’s family. The fundraiser will help pay for childcare and education for her four children. So far, the family have raised over $38,000.